Okcupid Slow
(OkCupid, 2020) Slow Dating and Wilder Dating. The COVID-19 lockdown forced daters not to rush relationships. This spurred on the trend of slow dating where daters get to know each other more on an emotional and personal level before going into physical pursuits. This also gives women more control over their dating lives. But there’s still that slow torture aspect to it. But alas a somewhat better way of dealing with that.:-) On OkCupid, one can “hide” a user. When one does that, they can still message you, and you them, but they won’t show up in your searches, matches, activity, that they’ve viewed your profile (or you theirs), etc.
What Is OkCupid Boost?
An OkCupid Boost shows your profile at the top of special blend searches, on quick match, and in activity feeds. So, in essence, your profile is seen by a lot of users in a short amount of time.
Boosts usually last for 15 minutes but OkCupid extends them if you don’t reach a certain number of impressions in that time (currently 1,000).
You can buy a Boost individually or buy in bulk for a discount.
Unlike the daily Boosts that come with an OkCupid A-List subscription, you can choose the timing of a separately-purchased Boost. The clock starts right after you purchase.
Can Anyone See I’m Using OkCupid Boost?
Nope. OkCupid doesn’t label profiles using Boost.
How Much Does a Boost Cost?
Okcupid Swipe
For now the set price of a single OkCupid Boost is .99 cents via the mobile app or $2.00 via the website.
How Can I Get the Most Out of an OkCupid Boost?
To make your Boost impressions go farther, optionally consider doing the following during your Boost. (This is best done on a computer rather than a phone.)
• Turn anonymous browsing off and visitors on.
• As profile thumbnails pop up, open the attractive ones in new tabs.
• Also search for Last Online and open the attractive ones in new tabs.
The idea here is: if you show up as having viewed their profile, they’ll view yours back — further increasing the amount of attention you’re getting in that short time.
When your Boost ends, read through the profiles and message/like the users you’re into to get the ball rolling.
When Is the Best Time to Use an OkCupid Boost?
Short answer: Sundays at 9pm
According to a study of mobile app behavior by Nielson, OkCupid is busiest on Sunday. Between 9pm and 10pm is OkCupid’s most popular hour.
Activity is lowest between 2am and 5am. Users start engaging around 5pm. Activity goes up and up through the evening until 10pm, when activity falls off again.
Long answer: When your profile is good enough that you won’t be wasting the opportunity
When you use a Boost, a lot of users are seeing your profile. But it still really depends on the quality of your profile as to how many messages or dates you’ll get from it.
With a bad profile, there’s the sad possibility that you’ll just get rejected more and faster.
Look: Being considered highly attractive on dating sites/apps isn’t just for Brad Pitt or jacked guys named “Chad.” You just have to know what kind of pics sell you well. And the vast majority of your competition is failing at this. Turns out, most people use pics that don’t do them justice at all, and they lose attention immediately.
Answer? Test your pics on Photofeeler. Choosing a profile pic this way has been known to increase matches on Tinder by 200-400%.
Go to Photofeeler.com now and give it a try!
So, typical scenario on OkCupid. I find a profile I at least rather, and perhaps quite like. Maybe even one where I think / “feel” we’re highly probable to make for a good – even excellent match. I message them, and … nothing. Statistically, that’s to be expected. For M messaging F on OkCuid, something roughly around 2/3 to 90% of those messages get zero response.
But alas, I “favorited” them, or gave them a (1-3) “star” rating.
I almost never give 4 of 5 stars – mostly because, at least as I recall, if one does that on OkCupid, it notifies them … and that’s likely counter productive – at least I’d think … whether I’d messaged them or not. Maybe if I’d already met ’em and know ’em fairly well, perhaps that would work fine – but otherwise I think it mostly would make any chance of mine with them only slightly less probable – so I almost never give 4 or 5 start ratings on OkCupid. But I digress.
Okcupid Slow Cooker
Alas, having favorited them, I also generally see their activity … various updates they make, they show in my searches, “matches” and activity, even often shows me when the logon. And, … that’s mostly just a slow bit of torture – as I’d already messaged them, hadn’t heard back – and in most cases/probabilities, never will. Likewise, they look at my profile – I see that … but again, most probably they’ll never message me back, and it’s mostly just more slow torture. Could message them again? Sure, … but that’s highly unlikely to get a response. If they didn’t respond to a first message, pretty darn improbable they’d respond to a second one – particularly if they’ve been on the site some hours or days or more since I sent them that message, and they’ve had more than ample time to read it and respond. So, a second message would, where they’d not replied at all to the first, at least most probably, would be a counter productive waste (and a bit more slow torture).
Many many times – just as part of emotional “survival” strategy – and the harsh realities … I message someone, and I then, more-or-less, as much as feasible, try to – much as I hope and wish they’ll respond – I try to start letting go and forgetting about them the instant I’ve sent the message – because most of the time I’ll hear exactly nothing back – ever – and nothing will ever come of it – and more messages won’t make it better. But there’s still that slow torture aspect to it.
But alas … a somewhat better way of dealing with that. :-) On OkCupid, one can “hide” a user. When one does that, they can still message you, and you them, but … they won’t show up in your searches, matches, activity, that they’ve viewed your profile (or you theirs), etc. So, … I’ve changed my strategy. I send a first message, then “hide” them and remove them from my favorites. If I get a message from them great – or at least potentially so. And, if not, … I, for the most part, never at all see or are reminded of or about them again at all – at least not by OkCupid in any way. Well, … except there’s still the “sent messages” – they show up in there, unless/until I delete them. Maybe too, I’ll also start doing that at some point? But that’s not as critical – as once I “hide” the user, and remove them from favorites, “sent messages” is the only place on OkCupid I’ll ever see them again.
Reality sucks … but sometimes there are ways to make it feel at least a slight bit less sucky.