Plenty Of Fish Over 40
Having read in several places about skewed Male:Female sex ratios on online dating sites, i thought I’d do a little experiment and try counting them myself. I used Plenty Of Fish, which currently is the most widely used site. Since I can’t actually count every male and female site member and then calculate the male:female ratios and I don’t have access to the Plenty of Fish database, I decided to use a count of the members who are Online Now to estimate the male:female ratio. This is pretty easy to do with POF because it shows up clearly on the search result pages and when you do the search you just choose Sort by Last Visit and the everyone who’s Online Now comes up first in the results.
- With over 1 billion messages sent a month on the site, Plenty of Fish prides itself on being “the best dating site for conversations.” It’s free to send messages on POF, as singles call it, and you can browse under a username (not your real name) to stay anonymous while you browse.
- Plenty of Fish’s claim to fame is that it has facilitated more online conversations than any other platform (because all messaging is free). The site has over 3 million active users, and over 70,000 singles join the site every day. Singles over 40 can take the Chemistry Test to find out which profiles share similar characteristics and life goals.
- Not plenty of fish on this site but plenty of the ideal partners to have great relationships with. It is another one of the biggest free dating sites with a huge membership base. It is great for older singles and thanks to the advanced search features which come with an upgraded paid membership you can limit your search to only older singles if.
- Plenty More Silver Fish is an online dating site built with the sole purpose of bringing together vibrant, singles who are forty and over that love life, enjoy date nights and want to meet their mature love match! Our online dating database is vast, ever growing and filled with brilliant singles over 40 looking for someone amazing, just like you!
When a Plenty Of Fish member performs a search for other members, one thing many people notice is the search results only shows members that are no more than about 10 years older or younger than you.
For the other search terms I used:
- All Profiles (with or without picture)
- For Anything (Dating, Long Term etc.)
- All Ethnicities
- Within 25 miles
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The search was done using a central Toronto postal code and was done over four different evenings at slightly different times, all of which seemed to exhibit a pretty similar pattern.
As to the age splits I chose, they seem reasonable. Any choice of groupings is at least somewhat arbitrary and could probably be criticized, but short of doing a separate count for each and every age this seemed like a good choice.
The ratios ranged from a high of 3.43:1 (age 30-34) to a low of 0.86:1 (age 45-49), though varied from evening to evening for those age groups. Overall, the data for the different dates all show a similar pattern with the sex ratio most highly skewed in the late 20’s and early 30’s, being fairly even in the 40’s and then increasing a bit in the 50’s.
Here’s the actual data and graphs for the four data sets.
And finally here’s a table showing the data for all four evenings together and a chart of the male:female sex ratio by age group based on this data.
Yes, you can find love. But you need to face reality.
You claim, there are no good men out there.
Hogwash! There are plenty of great guys actively looking for a committed relationship. The problem is in your approach, in your mindset and in your expectations of the men you date.
The man of your dreams is handsome (he still has hair on top and his belly doesn't hang over his belt). He’s successful, attentive, intelligent and his children live in a faraway state. You looking for true love and you know exactly what you want and, more importantly, what you refuse to accept in a man.
Plenty Of Fish Dating Site Over 40
But knowing what you want and finding it are two different things.
If you haven't found your dream guy just yet — you're not alone. Millions of single women just can't find 'the one,' and it isn't because they aren't looking. The truth is: women say they want a committed relationship but their actions and behavior actually sabotage their chances of finding true love.
Here are the TOP 4 reasons women block love more than they’re welcoming it in:
- You have unrealistic expectations: Woman are infamous for “The List, a column of checkmark boxes that characterize the traits and attributes that must characterize the man they will date or marry. It’s your list of must-haves and deal breakers that no man can measure up to.
You refuse to date men who don’t pass your scrutiny. You meet a great guy but you reject him because he wears the wrong shirt, or his haircut or eyeglasses are out of date, or he is bit reserved. You close your mind to the possibility that this man is an intelligent, loving, stable “diamond in the rough” eager to be polished.
Solution: The difference between settling and keeping an open mind is knowing when your high standards morph into unrealistic, unattainable expectations.
I’m not saying lower your standards and I’m not saying you should settle for Mr. So-So, but if you want to find true love, you need define the traits and qualities that are TRULY important to you in man and ditch your fantasy list. - You're toting around excess baggage: You blame your low self-esteem issues and your problems on your hurtful past. Your ex-boyfriend-husband-lover was neglectful, or he cheated on you, or he was verbally or physically abusive.
You’reuntrusting, bitter, demanding, fearful and guarded. You swear you’ll never let another man get his hook into your heart and you lump all men into a cauldron of liars, cheaters and assholes.
You’re afraid to love a man deeply because he might betray you or abandon you. When a man does show a genuine interest in you, you push him away with you insecure behavior, emotional outbursts and hyper-criticisms.
Solution: Girl, do yourself an immense service and STOP allowing the negative, miserable thoughts and actions of others dictate the quality of your life! You are not what happened to you in the past. You are what you choose to become today.
You need to understand that you are NOT the hyper-criticisms of your mom or the little girl whose father abandoned or abused her. You are NOT the demeaning remarks of your abusive boyfriend or husband. You are NOT the woman who drinks or does drugs to numb your emotional pain.
You are here on Earth to bless and benefit the people who truly know you and appreciate you, value you and love you for the unique and special person you are. If you can't grasp that, you really do need to get counseling to work through your emotional issues.
Read: 5 Breakup Mistakes That Sabotage Your Recovery Big Time! - You’re attracted to the wrong men: You choose men based on feelings and impulse. You’re drawn to men who are uber-confident, aloof, provocative and intriguing. Guys who are average looking, considerate, dependable and doting (marriage material) are boring to you, and you pine for the bad boys who make you feel uncertain, insecure and lovesick
Solution: Falling in love with a good man it is a conscious choice that is not based on knee-jerk attraction and tingling sensations. If you ever hope to find true love, you MUST:
Consciously and willfully STOP dating emotionally unavailable men, bad boys and self-absorbed jerks.
Reject the cool guy’s disingenuous flattery and seduction and be “turned on” by a man’s kindness, dependability and unconditional love.
Avoid the emotional highs and lows of a love-addict and seek a relationship that encourages personal growth, trust and stability. - You’re noncommittal. You say you want a man in your life, but you don’t want to share your bedroom, your bathroom or your clothes closets with a man. You got rid of your controlling, cheating, abusive boyfriend/husband and now it’s “me-time' you assert.
You’ll accept a man’s invitation to dinner and the movies when it suits you, but an intimate relationship with him is strictly out of the question. You hold him at arm’s distance, you find something wrong with him and you dump him—or you passively-aggressively do things that cause him to break off with you. You whine to your girlfriends that you don’t have a man in your life but the reality is you’re unwilling to compromise to bring love into your life.
Solution: Quit fooling yourself because you’re not fooling me or anyone else. Admit it: you REALLY don’t want to share your heart or your space with a man. Now don’t you feel better that you can live your life unencumbered?
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